Isn’t it funny how the same events of one day can feel very different on another day.
It could be somebody pushing into a queue at a cafe. On one day you may shrug your shoulders and move on, another time their rudeness may make you angry at the unfairness or selfishness of their actions.
Nothing changed on their part, but your mindset did.
It’s the same when it comes to managing ME symptoms.
There are days where the fatigue and pain have really got me down, where being stuck in bed has left me frustrated, or where in the middle of doing something nice – like a catch up with a friend – the energy switch inside me flicks and I am suddenly unable to focus or even string a coherent sentence together.
It’s taken me a long time to notice how much my mindset can affect my response to all of these things, and to notice how all those negative reactions can make my physical symptoms even worse.
On almost all occasions where I find myself getting angry or sad or upset or frustrated, I remind myself of those words.
If I focus on being more in the moment, and accepting that getting wound up won’t actually fix the problem, it really does help.
Having the mindset that the kinder I am to myself, and indeed the less I react negatively to any and all events around me, the better I will feel as a consequence.
Achieving it isn’t easy, indeed there are days where my glass is half empty, rather than half full. But I don’t worry about it, I accept that it will happen. And that acceptance means it disappears faster.
The more you look after your energy stores, the more you limit the number of things you do, the more you let things wash over you – the more you “worry less, no rush” – the more positive your mindset becomes.
Instead of focusing on what you can’t do, notice all the things you can do.
Instead of being frustrated that you can’t manage a five mile yomp, be really pleased that you did manage a five minute stroll.
Instead of getting angry with yourself for being stuck in bed through fatigue or pain, be really pleased that you are doing the right thing by resting your body as you know fighting it will only delay your internal batteries recharging.
Listening to music, sitting at the window watching the world go by, enjoying a cuppa and a magazine – all little things that can help you enjoy the moment. And the more you enjoy the moment, the more your mindset will shift from pointless worry to embracing all that you have, whatever that may be.
How have you managed to shift your mindset? Share your experience with Zonked Club. We’d all appreciate your advice, too.